Posted by: George Kimani | June 28, 2018

Vows and Rings| George Kimani

What is your favourite part of a wedding ceremony? Is it the processional? The giving of the bride? The reading of the Scriptures? Saying the “I do’s”? The exchange of vows? The pronouncement of “husband and wife”? Is it when the bride and groom kiss? What about the ring exchange?

Vows and RingsEvery part of the wedding ceremony has a purpose. The ring exchange tangibly symbolises the vows we make. The next day, the rings provide the only visible evidence that a wedding ever took place. The rings say to the watching world that each person has taken a vow, that a pledge has been made: Will you have him/her to be your wedded (wife/husband) to live with (her/him) after God’s commandments in the holy state of marriage, and will you love, honour, and cherish (her/him) so long as you both shall live? Some people use rings for decoration. Some use rings to communicate status. Others to show wealth. Wedding rings speak of commitment.

When a husband or wife wears a wedding ring, he or she tells the world, “I am committed to a person. I have given my life to this person. This person has pledged to love, honour, and cherish me for the rest of our lives together. This person has taken a vow to be faithful, and I, in return, have also vowed to be loving and faithful. This ring is a symbol of love and affection given and received.” Do you remember the vows, pledges, and professions you made on your wedding day? If not, find them. If yes, take a moment and think about them now.

So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.

MATHEW 19:6

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Posted by: George Kimani | January 12, 2018

Before Walking Down the Aisle?| George Kimani

My Wife and I did Premarital counseling with a Reverend, a Bishop and our Best Couple. We also visited a few marriage and relationship experts’ seminars. In our first session with each of them, they outlined 5 of the most important factors to consider and communicate about before walking down the aisle. It’s so important to have these standards in place in order to prevent a big mistake which leads to unnecessary heartache. Jess and I believe that the best time to prepare for marriage is before you have one. If you’re in a relationship now or you’re single, use these as a great guideline when considering who is a wise person to invest your heart in.

Friends- What are his/her friends like? We are the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with the most, so their friends are a great indicator as to who he is when he’s not in “impressing you” mode. Does he have friends? Is he a bridge burner or relationships keeper? How does he treat them? Are his friends kind and respectful towards you? You should be able to hang out with them in group settings and feel uplifted and relaxed.

t,You may not love everyone and they may not be best friends with you, but there should at least be respect in treating you well. Also, your man should always cover you and make you feel loved no matter what the circumstances are. While dating my wife Jess, I was worried his friends wouldn’t like me. Jess said; because I love you, they will love you. This helped me to feel confident and you deserve that too. You also want to be able to trust your better half with his/her friends, knowing they will hold him/her accountable to be his best self so your relationship can thrive in a healthy environment.

Family- Pay attention to his relationship with his family. Consider it a red flag if he doesn’t have one at all. While there are extenuating circumstances, you want to see that your future husband knows how to resolve conflict and repair relationships when conflict arises by extending forgiveness through his humility. How does he treat his mother? It sounds cliché, but it’s so true that how he treats his mother is a great indicator as to how he will treat you one day.

Some people have the notion that when they get married, they’re going to be in their own little bubble away from the world. But in reality, when you get married, you are also marrying their families. So consider how they treat you. How do you feel when you’re around them? If they are not warm and welcoming, then your guy should absolutely cover you and let them know that you are important to him, therefore they need to behave considerately. They should feel lucky to get you as a daughter in law.

Finance- Finance is a leading cause of divorce. It doesn’t matter if you’re poor or rich, it’s how s/he handles his/her money that matters. Is he or she responsible? What does his spending and saving habits look like? You definitely don’t want to end up married and then discover he overspends, has ruined credit or a substantial amount of debt that will add strain to your relationship.

When Jess and I got engaged, we were completely transparent with our financials and discussed mutual short and long-term goals. Money is a very sensitive topic for me and is for many people, but open and clear communication up front will prevent detrimental surprises later. And remember, where he spends his money is where his heart is.

Future- Pay attention to his/her ambitions and vision for his future. Does he include you in his future plans? It’s important to share similar goals and a future vision so you can dream together rather than drift apart. Teamwork equals dream work. There are married couples who are doing completely different things and going in opposite directions, and it can work well for some of them. In general, it will make life a whole lot more pleasant and enjoyable if you can have stimulating conversations about your shared dreams.

Faith- Do you share the same faith and beliefs? At the end of the day, the last thing you want to argue about is what you consider to be the source and foundational principles of life. Don’t be stubborn and insist that you have to learn this on your own by experiencing it. True wisdom is learning from other peoples mistakes, so take it from me.

Don’t let love blind you now and wake up when it’s too late. Use these tools and wisdom to protect your destiny, your dreams and the future love story you deserve. Now you have standards to look for in a partner, but don’t worry because next week, I’ll dish the standards to keep for yourself!

 

 

 

 

 

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